When I began writing ‘Heal from a Split: Healing Emotional After Love & Loss’, I thought it was mainly about processing the end of my marriage.
But one day, while walking in the park, I had a profound realisation: the deepest impact on my ability to heal and move forward was rooted in my relationship with my biological father.
We had been estranged since I was four years old. Our connection was marked by silence, arguments, or complete disconnection. I grew up disliking him, filled with anger, rage, and resentment.
My mother shared stories of what he did to her while she was pregnant with me, and I couldn’t understand how a man could hurt a woman so vulnerable.
That hurt sank deep into my heart.
I believed that if I could heal this core wound, I could finally truly heal from my divorce.
I thought, “If I can forgive and let go of this pain, perhaps I can attract a healthier, more loving relationship—one based on loyalty, commitment, and trust.”
In 2024, I decided to take a bold step. I reached out to God for guidance and knew I had to clear the negative energy I held about my dad and replace it with peace.
I turned to holistic therapies like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Matrix Re- Imprinting. But I didn’t want to just read about their potential—I wanted to put them to the test on my most challenging relationship.
I made a conscious decision: if EFT and Matrix Re-Imprinting could help me resolve this long- standing rift with my father, then I would truly know they are powerful tools. This was my personal case study.